Q:  I’m having a dilemma with my best friend and she’s having a birthday party next week. She invited a mutual friend of ours that I had a falling out with about eight months ago. And I we have not spoken about it.

I did not ask her why she invited her. She knows that I’m very uncomfortable around her.

Should I confront my friend and should I go to the party?

A:  Because you’re upset, you want world to stop turning on its axis?

I’m uncomfortable. What a powerful term women use. I’m uncomfortable, therefore, you should be.

To me, well, I guess other people are not uncomfortable with that person. And you had the expectation that your friend was supposed to stop the earth from turning.

Here’s what you should do.  Go to the party and just hold your head up high and be nice to everybody at the party.  Because it would be very rude, self-centered and immature of you to behave in a way which makes anybody else uncomfortable at her party. What kind of a friend would you be if you made a scene at the party?

Here’s something else you should. Make a point of going to the comfortable person and saying “hi”. “That’s a really nice dress or your hair looks great”.  Do that and her head will spin.